You know, it just dawned on me that this isn’t the first time I’ve experienced Lockdown. That feeling of being restricted, unable to go about my daily business, limited freedom of choice, having to do what I’m told.
No matter what you want to do, when you’re in an Alcohol Lockdown you have no freedom. Did I want to drink? No. Did I? Yes, of course I bloody well did! It was Groundhog Day everyday. There is no free will, no choices, no ability to change what you want to do, do new things, go to new places. Why? Because you have to be able to get that drink. Because if you deviate from what you do everyday, you might not get that drink, and nothing is worth that risk. So you do the same old, same old…. After all, why would you chance going out where you couldn’t drink, or do something that might delay you from getting that drink? Drive somewhere? You must be joking!
Wow, I hadn’t realised how many similarities to today’s Lockdown’s there were until I wrote that, especially the inability to drive anywhere! Of course, there’s one huge difference. Today’s Covid Lockdown is all about being safe, bringing benefit to yourself and others by stopping the spread of this horrendous virus.
But what about that voice in your head?
Taking a step back though, that part about staying safe is another problem that stems from drinking, and it actually can cause us to drink. The subconscious part of our mind is always whirring away in the background without us even knowing, and one of its primary functions is to keep us safe. So, if we are about to do anything new or step out of our comfort zone, its gives us a bit of a nudge. “Are you sure you want to do that? It’s not going to feel good…..” it tells us. And our subconscious says this to us regular drinkers whenever we decide not to drink. It’s that voice in our heads, the devil on our shoulder, the wine witch. Because it knows that without alcohol we will be uncomfortable, perhaps anxious, not numbing out, fidgety, and for those more medically addicted, maybe stronger physical symptoms. So we let ourselves be persuaded to drink by our own subconscious that is trying to make us feel better the only way it knows. Back to Alcohol Lockdown.
Break that cycle of Alcohol Lockdown!
Ok, so now you know that the voice in your head is keeping you there partly because it mistakenly believes its good for you! Now what can you do? Well, the first step is to acknowledge that it’s there and to tell it “thank you, I appreciate that you’re trying to help me in the only way that you know, but I’d like to explore some other options”. Once you’ve got its attention you can start to bring a balancing voice in to reason with it, the part of you that doesn’t want to always drink. Get a dialogue going. Look at how the two parts can work together to find a solution.
Does this sound a bit fluffy to you? It’s a bit of a different concept to get your head around, but building up that other part of you that doesn’t want to drink with a voice, building it a bit stronger every day, questioning the wine witch, it all helps to break the lockdown cycle.
Would you like to experience this for yourself?
Is this something you’d like to explore further with me? I would love you to experience this gentle and enlightening NLP exercise so that you can gain clarity on who and what you want to be.
I work with my Clients through Coaching and NLP techniques to help them make better choices, and to become who they want to be. If you recognise that you ought to to rethink your current drinking habit, drop me a message or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org to set up a free discovery call over a virtual cuppa!
Hi! I’m Anne! I love analogies in case you hadn’t noticed! You can read about my wake-up call from binge and habitual drinking in one of my earlier blog posts here, and how I’ve developed since in my story by clicking here.